So you do you guys remember the classic saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" Will its funny how that saying can stick with you no matter how old you! and how wrong that saying is at times.
I've come to a conclusion that words have a very big impact on you no matter what age you are! either positive words or negative words. So Im going to paint you a little image write now... (You have a bottle of a toothpaste in your hands right now... ever negative word or rumor you have either taken part of started push some toothpaste out of the tube.. ok now try to put it back.. is it easy? nope didn't think so.) I myself have done this active many times and it seems to always get me. Iam not perfect I can tell you that! but coming from a person where word's mean a lot to her and she hold's on to them tightly this little school grade saying it just bunch of rubbish I think.
You guys know the 5 love language test? will if not the five are : quality time, random acts of kindness, Words of affirmation, receiving Gifts, and physical Touch. I have taken this test many times and most of the time I have always come up with quality time and words of affirmation. Which means I love to spend time with people and words, will I hold on to them and they do effect me either negative or positive. Anyways so you may be asking Ok fey what are you getting at? Will plan and simple my friends and family WORDS!!
Either you love them or you hate them. Just recently I have been effected by some words, and It torn me down a little. So as I said before I think this saying is rubbish! and people including myself may just need to re think before they speak. Iam sorry that Iam going on a ranting session right now, but this is just what is on my heart. It's silly that we let words define who we are or just how much of an impact they have on us but this is daily struggle that Iam working through. There are days where I can let someone's words just slid off my back or I can just really take it to heart....
I once heard this saying "We are broken people loving on other broken people" and it just saddens me that amongst brokenness we can cause more brokenness to hide how we are feeling. Which may then cause to division amongst your close loved ones.
So as I end this little ranting session for now I just want to make you think... along with myself also ... If we were all carrying around tubes of toothpaste and with every negative word you say to someone through out the day how much of that toothpaste would you have left? and are we really just broken people loving on broken people or we just causing more brokenness that really doesn't need to be there?
~Fey
Wednesday, 27 November 2013
Saturday, 23 November 2013
Burn Outs, Rest, breath of fresh air!
So this past week I have had the chance to just re gain my energy and attend a class back at my bible collage about inner city work and seeing it from a biblical point of view. For sure there was a part of me thinking I sure do enjoy the time off at work but there is also a part of me that is very grateful to apply what I have learnt from this class.
Having this week off from work and taking a step back from my job and breathing a little it really makes me think about the inner city life. The marginalized people, the people who are very much in need of God's love and grace. the people who are "Under the over pass" ( Which is a book that Iam reading right now side note).
Anyways one thing that kept going through my mind while taking this class was people who are called to this ministry.. and being called to this ministry just how fast you can burn out. Which then made me think about the book of Job, just how he always relied on his own strength and yet God was speaking to him trying to get his attention saying "Hey, hello, Job Im here...your are not alone" I've only been working at Hope Mission for 3 months now but I can see the warning sings of people who burn out and don't admit to themselves that maybe they are burning out. Which is very sad to see in a ministry :( Which once again brings me back to Job. In way in life or in ministry we think that we are Job, We can do things on our own and we got this no big deal... but boy or boy does it ever suck wen reality hits us hard and God gives a wake up call! Which is pretty much what also happened to Job. Iam not sure if Im making sense right now or not but the point Im trying to make right now is that burn outs in ministry are no fun! (burn outs in general are no fun!)
And the most simplest way for a burn out is.... KEEPING BUSY! I hate to admit this but this is for sure something that I, myself struggle with alto! Business... distractions. While sitting in on this class this topic hit me so hard! You would think that I would have noticed by now that distractions are my specialty.. but nope.. it took a good class on Urban Ministry and God speaking to me this week about where my heart is at in this ministry. Not only did I learn about that topic but also just what justice looks and being at risk looks like.
So overall it was a pretty great week and the rest that I needed. Speaking of rest off to bed to I go!
(Sorry about being late on posting this by the way)
Having this week off from work and taking a step back from my job and breathing a little it really makes me think about the inner city life. The marginalized people, the people who are very much in need of God's love and grace. the people who are "Under the over pass" ( Which is a book that Iam reading right now side note).
Anyways one thing that kept going through my mind while taking this class was people who are called to this ministry.. and being called to this ministry just how fast you can burn out. Which then made me think about the book of Job, just how he always relied on his own strength and yet God was speaking to him trying to get his attention saying "Hey, hello, Job Im here...your are not alone" I've only been working at Hope Mission for 3 months now but I can see the warning sings of people who burn out and don't admit to themselves that maybe they are burning out. Which is very sad to see in a ministry :( Which once again brings me back to Job. In way in life or in ministry we think that we are Job, We can do things on our own and we got this no big deal... but boy or boy does it ever suck wen reality hits us hard and God gives a wake up call! Which is pretty much what also happened to Job. Iam not sure if Im making sense right now or not but the point Im trying to make right now is that burn outs in ministry are no fun! (burn outs in general are no fun!)
And the most simplest way for a burn out is.... KEEPING BUSY! I hate to admit this but this is for sure something that I, myself struggle with alto! Business... distractions. While sitting in on this class this topic hit me so hard! You would think that I would have noticed by now that distractions are my specialty.. but nope.. it took a good class on Urban Ministry and God speaking to me this week about where my heart is at in this ministry. Not only did I learn about that topic but also just what justice looks and being at risk looks like.
So overall it was a pretty great week and the rest that I needed. Speaking of rest off to bed to I go!
(Sorry about being late on posting this by the way)
Wednesday, 13 November 2013
Music, Cafe's, Smiles, Heart to Hearts
There is so many things that I can go on about how pretty great out reach ministry is but for now Iam just going to hit on my top 3 high lights since working here and just has been on my heart lately.
Coffee\ Laundry dates:
I've had many opportunity's to build relationships with the youth that I have come to love and cherish so much! One of the things that I noticed that really help for any type of outreach ministry or just ministry in general is yeah gotta start simple. Which may just mean taking a couple of youth out for coffee or just walking around downtown Edmonton and seeing them in their own environment.Coffee heart to hearts or Laundry Opitments are for sure one of the highlights about my job that I have come to enjoy very much! To be able to take time out of my day and just sit and chat in the office or walk around down town Edmonton and listen to how a youth's day is going is pretty great!
So there is one girl who I have come to build a very close relationship with here in the youth shelter. Sadly she doesn't stay here anymore though but from time to time I'll meet up with her and see how is she doing. The other day I got this message from her saying that she misses our chat's and coffees we would have together and asking if I have time to talk to her . Right there just showed much of a close relationship I have with her and how much an impact I have had on her and how much she has on me also.
Volunteers:
Another part of working is seeing just how many volunteers that come into Hope Mission and are ready to just help out wherever is needed! You may come into work one day and see that there is alot of work that need's be to done but yet there would be a group of people that would show up and being ready to help out :) I've gotton to see this many times since working here! Either for the thanksgiving dinner or just getting donations given to the youth shelter at the right time when we just run out of something!
Perfect Example would be this week... CLBI (Camrose Lutheran Bible Institute) they are on there Urban Hike which is an experience they will never forget! So they come into the inner city experiencing being homeless for a week and also volunteering where ever there needs to be help!and they could have not come at a more needing time!
Courses\ Training:
The last and final thing that I want to touch base on about working here for a highlight for me is, I have gotton the chance to go to Alberta Health Services courses on very many different things that our youth have to deal with in our life.I have taken courses on Substance drug abuse and soon going to be taking 3 more courses on how to deal with kids who come from divorced homes, sexual abused homes, and FAS homes\youth.
To be able to have knowledge in these areas come's very handy and also let's me explore the type of filed that I would like to go into.
So that is just a taste of what I do with my job here at Hope Mission! There are many, many other highlights that I can think of but those are my top 3 that stick out to me on why I love doing the job that I do! It's never a dull moment when working in this filed. I have come to realize when you are truly passionate about something and your heart is init your job just doesn't seem like a job anymore(Im not sure if you ever get like that or not.) But I can tell you right now that is where I stand right now! I don't see taking youth out for coffee, or doing laundry appointments is a job to me.. I see it as building a relationship and making new friends to be honest. I don't see them as clients either, or another homeless person on the streets, I truly and honstly see them as a friend, or even very close friend of myn. To be able to sit down acorss from a table to and talk to a person with out knowing that they just got out of jail or is on a probation and not knowing this and only seeing them as just them really changes your view of things. (Also it's a breath of fresh air for them to! To know that the person who is sitting across them see's them as them and not the person who just got out of jail.)
Anyways Iam now done my rambling, I hope I have made you think somewhat or a even little!
Have a great day! :D
Coffee\ Laundry dates:
I've had many opportunity's to build relationships with the youth that I have come to love and cherish so much! One of the things that I noticed that really help for any type of outreach ministry or just ministry in general is yeah gotta start simple. Which may just mean taking a couple of youth out for coffee or just walking around downtown Edmonton and seeing them in their own environment.Coffee heart to hearts or Laundry Opitments are for sure one of the highlights about my job that I have come to enjoy very much! To be able to take time out of my day and just sit and chat in the office or walk around down town Edmonton and listen to how a youth's day is going is pretty great!
So there is one girl who I have come to build a very close relationship with here in the youth shelter. Sadly she doesn't stay here anymore though but from time to time I'll meet up with her and see how is she doing. The other day I got this message from her saying that she misses our chat's and coffees we would have together and asking if I have time to talk to her . Right there just showed much of a close relationship I have with her and how much an impact I have had on her and how much she has on me also.
Volunteers:
Another part of working is seeing just how many volunteers that come into Hope Mission and are ready to just help out wherever is needed! You may come into work one day and see that there is alot of work that need's be to done but yet there would be a group of people that would show up and being ready to help out :) I've gotton to see this many times since working here! Either for the thanksgiving dinner or just getting donations given to the youth shelter at the right time when we just run out of something!
Perfect Example would be this week... CLBI (Camrose Lutheran Bible Institute) they are on there Urban Hike which is an experience they will never forget! So they come into the inner city experiencing being homeless for a week and also volunteering where ever there needs to be help!and they could have not come at a more needing time!
Courses\ Training:
The last and final thing that I want to touch base on about working here for a highlight for me is, I have gotton the chance to go to Alberta Health Services courses on very many different things that our youth have to deal with in our life.I have taken courses on Substance drug abuse and soon going to be taking 3 more courses on how to deal with kids who come from divorced homes, sexual abused homes, and FAS homes\youth.
To be able to have knowledge in these areas come's very handy and also let's me explore the type of filed that I would like to go into.
So that is just a taste of what I do with my job here at Hope Mission! There are many, many other highlights that I can think of but those are my top 3 that stick out to me on why I love doing the job that I do! It's never a dull moment when working in this filed. I have come to realize when you are truly passionate about something and your heart is init your job just doesn't seem like a job anymore(Im not sure if you ever get like that or not.) But I can tell you right now that is where I stand right now! I don't see taking youth out for coffee, or doing laundry appointments is a job to me.. I see it as building a relationship and making new friends to be honest. I don't see them as clients either, or another homeless person on the streets, I truly and honstly see them as a friend, or even very close friend of myn. To be able to sit down acorss from a table to and talk to a person with out knowing that they just got out of jail or is on a probation and not knowing this and only seeing them as just them really changes your view of things. (Also it's a breath of fresh air for them to! To know that the person who is sitting across them see's them as them and not the person who just got out of jail.)
Anyways Iam now done my rambling, I hope I have made you think somewhat or a even little!
Have a great day! :D
Tuesday, 12 November 2013
Catch up time
Alright it has been awhile since I have started up my blog.. .and I have been chatting with and asking if I should start one up again and share what its on my heart and has been going on in my life since working at Hope Mission. The conclusion I have come to is "yes" I should start one up again.. so Here is it friends and family I have now started up Coffee Time with Fey! (Or tea time with fey, or whatever beverage you drink while reading this)
So I guess I should fill you guys in on what has been happening in my life since I have been slacking lately. If you most of you remember I did have a blog called "What God has been doing in the big city" Which was when I was in Toronto, But now Iam back in Alberta living life up in Edmonton and doing another internship with inner city youth but with a ministry called "Hope Mission" I never really thought I would really see my self working again in inner city work and doing the street out reach like Iam doing right now.
As of August 18th I moved back to Alberta started working at Hope Mission September 5th in the youth shelter with ages 18-24 youth who have been at risk with the life the style they are living or with the group of people they are living with or around. My heart and passion are for sure inner city street out reach! it has now been over 2 months since I've been here and I love the fact that I can now walk downtown Edmonton and see a ton of youth that I know who will come and give me hugs on the streets or just come and catch up with me and ask how life is going.
Yes for sure there has been my up's and down's since working at hope mission and investing in these youth but I have been blessed with my friends that I have who are living in Edmonton, who have opened their homes up to me whenever I need to get away or just have some breathing time to get away from work.
Well Folks Im not sure what else to catch up on right now, this is pretty much my life right now and for sure there will be more to come now I have started up this blog! super excited to share the stories that I have come across and share what is on my heart while doing this ministry!.
With much Love
Fey
So I guess I should fill you guys in on what has been happening in my life since I have been slacking lately. If you most of you remember I did have a blog called "What God has been doing in the big city" Which was when I was in Toronto, But now Iam back in Alberta living life up in Edmonton and doing another internship with inner city youth but with a ministry called "Hope Mission" I never really thought I would really see my self working again in inner city work and doing the street out reach like Iam doing right now.
As of August 18th I moved back to Alberta started working at Hope Mission September 5th in the youth shelter with ages 18-24 youth who have been at risk with the life the style they are living or with the group of people they are living with or around. My heart and passion are for sure inner city street out reach! it has now been over 2 months since I've been here and I love the fact that I can now walk downtown Edmonton and see a ton of youth that I know who will come and give me hugs on the streets or just come and catch up with me and ask how life is going.
Yes for sure there has been my up's and down's since working at hope mission and investing in these youth but I have been blessed with my friends that I have who are living in Edmonton, who have opened their homes up to me whenever I need to get away or just have some breathing time to get away from work.
Well Folks Im not sure what else to catch up on right now, this is pretty much my life right now and for sure there will be more to come now I have started up this blog! super excited to share the stories that I have come across and share what is on my heart while doing this ministry!.
With much Love
Fey
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